AHIEVERS WISDOM: wrong

11 July 2018

Anger: That Destructive Moment

By Balogun M. Adewale On July 11, 2018 In wrong

“Be patient and calm-for no one can catch fish in anger” – Herbert Hoover”

Anger is a choice and it has nothing to offer you than distraction and destruction. You cannot achieve any remarkable rather regrettable result when you are angry. “For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind” says Ralph Waldo Emerson. Why paying so much for goods you are not ready to receive? Why loosing so much if there is no expectation of gain? Be aware, your anger is never a friend. If anyone praise you for an action you take out of anger, such person is your enemy.

“Speak when you are angry - and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret.” - Laurence J. Peter. Anger is inevitable, but you have choice what to do with it. According to Stephen Hawking, “People won't have time for you if you are always angry or complaining”, and I believe that, I don’t know about you. I want the best people around me; so, I can’t afford to go angry all the time. Moreover “To be angry is to revenge the faults of others on ourselves” - Alexander Pope. Why will I ever choose that when I know that “Getting angry doesn't solve anything” as thought by Grace Kelly.

It could be funny when I told you anger could be the best solution sometimes. Before you crucify me, let’s share other intellectual thoughts on this matter. Evan Rachel Wood says “The biggest lessons I've learned in life have probably come from a bad situation, from an angry situation, even if I wasn't the one who was angry.” Can you make sense out of that; I think I am a testimony. Another point is that, if you want to go angry, do for the best. Sometimes, you have to get angry to get things done” - Ang Lee. Yes, if you go angry about a situation then go ahead and find solution to it, then better. But if otherwise “When angry count to ten before you speak, If very angry, count to one hundred” advised Thomas Jefferson. Always remember, “Being angry is like picking up a knife with no handle: it is self-harming, - Koo Stark.

7 June 2018

In a State of Confusion, Just Do the Right Thing

By Balogun M. Adewale On June 07, 2018 In wrong

“Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody's going to know whether you did it or not.”- Oprah Winfrey

I, just like you in many occasion found myself in states of confusion of what next or what best to do. In many of this occasion, we do make wrong choice because our decision is based on selfish interest without asking; is it the right thing to do? “Next to doing the right thing, the most important thing is to let people know you are doing the right thing.” - John D. Rockefeller.

We do deny the truth, but whether we like it or not, an average human being knows the difference between right and wrong. J. C. Watts says “Character is doing the right thing when nobody's looking. There are too many people who think that the only thing that's right is to get by, and the only thing that's wrong is to get caught.” The moment you are taking decision based on what you will gain or lose, without asking yourself, is it the right thing to do, believe me, you are threading the wrong path. A path with deadly end; be careful.

Just some years back, a friend is in such state of confusion but fortunately he decided not to keep it to himself. He called my attention to it, as the popular proverb refilled that “two (good) heads are better than one”. We deliberated on it and today he is just grateful. We apply just one technique using a question, what do you think is the right thing? This method of decision making still depends on the proverb, “show me your friend and I will tell you who you are”. John D. Rockefeller advised “Next to doing the right thing, the most important thing is to let people know you are doing the right thing.”

It is hard doing the right thing working towards your dream, but it is the best.

Never give up.